Dear Deidre: My sister-in-law does not realize that I am one of her biggest admirers on her Onlyfans account.
What started when innocent curiosity has become an unhealthy interest at best. Every week I log in under a secret persona and I know my girlfriend would end with me if she found out.
I am 29, my girlfriend is 28 and her sister is 26.
My girlfriend is beautiful and we are thinking about founding a family together. We have been together for three years.
I was not going to register in the long term when I signed up on her sister’s account. I had never been to the site before and really wanted a look.
Her sister had told me and my girlfriend, she had started with a tame account where she spoke with men in her underwear.
My girlfriend warned her that it would lead to problems, but my sister -in -law was already creating the “serious good money” she earned.
(Stock image) The man logs to a few times a week to view the only fans content of his sister-in-law[/caption]
Later that night my girlfriend told me that her sister had always been a attention seeker and that she often pulled the wrong type of admirer.
I tried to ignore the itch to look at her account, but within the week I had given.
With the help of a different name it felt weird flirting with her sister.
But by using a completely different persona, I allowed myself that it didn’t really matter because I wasn’t really.
Four months have passed and I regularly flirt with her on fans alone, but I have never urged anything anymore – I am not that bad.
But I log in at least twice a week.
Last weekend she trusted me and my girlfriend that many of her customers started asking her for more – topless, than naked and then masturbation.
She said in particular a man started asking her to do really scary things, and then started telling some of my requests – including her questions to pretend to be unconscious and vulnerable, fainted on the couch.
I know it is wrong, but it felt like a safe way to explore my imagination.
I start to feel sick with myself – how do I stop this routine?
Deidre says: It is likely that your secret will come out in one way or another and what then?
You are satisfied with your curiosity, so why do you still log in?
You started a dark path by requesting edgier content and I would encourage you to delete your account before the things escalate further, and before your sister-in-law starts to produce harder content.
What you do is Sinister on so many levels. Your sister -in -law does not know that it is you and I am sure your girlfriend would see this as cheating.
Your fantasies to see her vulnerable and unconscious are especially worrying. Many porn users look for increasingly extreme content because they need more risk of enjoying the same results.
After you have deleted the account, you must ensure that UU is busy when you were tempted to log in.
If you know that you would go to your laptop after dinner, reign to visit a friend or girlfriend or go to the gym. Change your habits to help you break this unhealthy.
With such dark drives it is likely that you need specialized help to stay away from such destructive scenarios. My support package is that porn is ruined your life full of more insight, more advice and crucial to go to get practical help.
Return your efforts to your relationship. You have the potential to build a wonderful family life with your girlfriend, but it will cost some obligation.
If you don’t have that in you, it would be much better for both of you and all potential children to reconsider your relationship plans.
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It is easy to understand the attraction of becoming an only fans star; Unlike the rest of the sex industry, it seems that artists can control their work, their image, their destination.
Then there is the money that can be unmistakably good.
Of course, many women who have chosen this way of life will talk about female empowerment, and I agree that someone has the right to make their own choices, but there are some harsh realities where this story breaks.
The truth is that nobody who only makes fans can retain control. Once it is published or shared, it is susceptible to screen handles, recorded and posted on other adult sites.
There is just no way to stop this.
The people who pay for sexual satisfaction can develop a sense of right to you. Some may even feel that they have a piece of you. In their eyes you are a product.
I have received several e -mails from troubled men who have been obsessed with only fans stars, convinced that their business transactions are in fact the basis of a relationship.
There are people who are researching the public and private details of only fans makers (called doxing) and then publish their findings, making women extremely vulnerable.
Former makers of content admit that although they start with their own limits, the pressure to keep their subs (subscribers) who are willing to pay, encourages them to perform extreme actions that they would not have considered before.
Once those videos and images are there, there is no time to turn back. It is therefore worth considering how in the future neighbors, children or partners can respond.
And finally, the money may be good, but I am not sure whether losing your family or security and privacy is a valuable price to pay.
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