THEY have both made hundreds of thousands of pounds as porn stars, bedding countless partners along the way.
Now former adult entertainer Katy Bampton has a stark message for pal Bonnie Blue, following her recent world record-breaking sex session with over 1,000 men.
Katy Bampton, left, met Bonnie Blue, right, on a porn shoot and the pair became friends[/caption]
Katy has concerns about what the challenge will do for Bonnie’s internal trauma[/caption]
Katy, who grew up in North Wales but now lives on the island of Koh Samui in Thailand, performed in a sex video with Bonnie and another man at the end of 2023.
However, after quitting the industry last year, she fears the star’s attention-grabbing stunts will not only take a toll on her friends’ physical and mental health, but set a terrible example for young women.
Katy, 32, said: “The whole OnlyFans world is so fake. Women faking orgasms, everyone faking being happy, I just wanted out.”
She added: “I know this is something Bonnie’s wanted to do for a while. But having worked in the porn industry for years and come out the other side, I also know there will be real costs to Bonnie’s wellbeing.
“Having sex with over 1,000 strangers, it’ll create a massive disconnect between her mental wellbeing and her body, the trauma and negative energy from this will become embedded in her, particularly in the tissues around her pelvis.
“It’s likely that in a couple of years she’ll realise the impact this has had on her feelings of self-worth, her confidence, her ability to maintain a meaningful relationship – and I want her to know I’ll be there for her when that happens. I can help her heal.”
Like Bonnie, Katy earned a six-figure income from her adult videos, but she has left that world behind to set up a wellbeing business to help women overcome sexual trauma and “achieve real, meaningful relationships – and orgasms”.
She adds: “Apart from Bonnie’s wellbeing, I’m really worried about the message this will send to other young people out there about sex, especially young girls who are thinking about doing OnlyFans videos to make what can seem to be easy money.
“Sex with a stranger can lead to depression, anxiety, your body and nervous system become broken and frazzled.
“It can lead to a fear of intimacy, not knowing who you really are. Your body stores all those emotions until you have this moment of self-realisation that you’re deeply unhappy and can’t forge meaningful relationships.”
“Believe me, I’ve been there!”
Casual sex warning
Katy says the idea that “random sex is fun, it can lead to happiness, it’s just… wrong”.
She explains: “OnlyFans has created this massive industry which simply didn’t exist before, with hundreds of women who’ve made a load of money, but lost sight of who they are.
“Then, when they want to get out, they can’t. They don’t know anything else, and men don’t accept their past life.”
She says the women doing the videos now are getting younger and younger – and worries they don’t know what they’re going into.
Katy said: “Bonnie always seemed to me to be really balanced, grounded, with-it, and I’m so worried about her now.
“This mad competition that’s started between her Lily Phillips, it’s sending out all the wrong messages. I simply can’t imagine that having sex with over 1,000 men back-to-back can have been enjoyable.”
Katy, who admits to sleeping with over 75 partners – male and female – says she was friends with ‘the majority’ of them beforehand.
“There was almost always some friendship there to start with, some degree of trust and a relationship of sorts, but towards the end I just didn’t want it anymore – I craved meaningful sex, a family, all that stuff you don’t envisage wanting when you’re younger.”
Drugged-up parties
Now devoutly celibate, Katy was born and brought up in North Wales before leaving the UK for France age 18, where she qualified as a personal trainer.
In 2018 she then moved to Australia’s Gold Coast, for the climate and to focus on becoming a professional CrossFit athlete.
Katy says having casual sex is unlikely to lead to happiness in the long run[/caption]
Katy was married to another porn star and they have wild parties as part of their life[/caption]
Also gaining qualifications as a nursery worker, it was in 2021 while babysitting for a couple that she was invited to her first swingers’ party.
Here, she met Australian porn star ‘Robbie Oz’ and the two quickly became a couple and got married.
“Before I knew it, I was going to drug-fuelled swinging parties, then started acting in the videos myself,” she said.
“It was a whirlwind, I don’t quite know how a kindergarten worker like me became a porn actor, but at the time it felt like a blast, the best time ever.”
It was around this time that she and fellow Brit Bonnie crossed paths.
“It’s a small industry, and we got on really well,” Katy said. “After we made the video, we went for drinks a few times, swapped numbers and kept in touch.
“Bonnie seemed really grounded, really with-it, and I loved having her as a friend. I’d regularly ask how she was doing, what she was up to.”
But a few months after making the X-rated video with Bonnie, Katy says she had an ‘epiphany’
Change in ways
Katy has since quit the industry[/caption]
Having tied the knot and then become a celebrity sex couple – making over £50,000 a month from their racy videos, with close to 100,000 social media followers – Katy and Rob went their separate ways.
“I loved the ride, the buzz, Rob was and is a very special person, but just over a year ago I had an epiphany that I’d lost myself, my mind, my soul,” said Katy.
“It had been coming for a while – I thought there has to be more to life than making porn videos and living in a Playboy mansion.”
“I told Rob I’m done with this, packed my bags and left.”
Having “fallen into the porn industry without really thinking”, Katy had decided to spend six months celibate and sober at a spiritual retreat in the Thai jungle.
“I basically did a whole bunch of woo-woo modalities, cleansing and healing my body from all my previous sexual interactions,” she said.
Sexologist goals
Lily Phillips is another adult star Katy thinks is taking it too far with the sex challenges[/caption]
Bonnie has said she will do more challenges since sleeping with 1,000 men in 24 hours[/caption]
With traditional Thai medicine and the help of a shaman, every day she meditated and refocused on her next path.
She said: “After about a year, I qualified as a somatic sexologist, helping women and couples connect with their sexual energy and the emotions of their body to achieve stronger relationships and real orgasms, not the fake nonsense you see on places like Pornhub.
“I wanted to create something real and meaningful from my experiences – but as a trained educator, I wanted to help people sexually become happier, better, stronger.”
When she came out of her retreat, Katy had a plan – run online workshops, couples retreats, even one-to-one sessions through her ‘School of Sensuality’ – a ‘place and platform where women can build relationships with themselves and their bodies’.
How YOU can have better orgasms
As a seasoned sexologist, one thing Katy knows about is how to have a good orgasm. Here she gives her tips to help women have the best climax possible.
Know yourself – “We’re all completely different, so self-exploration is key. Know what turns you on, experiment with touch, what brings you more pleasure. Try stronger, firmer, earthy, even barely touching at all – and try different parts of your body, like your feet, your scalp, your neck. Know yourself so you can direct your partner.”
Communicate – “Don’t expect your partner to automatically know what to do, where to go, how fast. Don’t be shy about kinks – we all have them! Try new positions, outfits, mix it up, but just tell your partner what’s working, what your fantasy is. Life’s too short to keep quiet.”
Change pace – “It’s not a race, slow down for better, deeper pleasure. Be present to give you and your partner time to appreciate each other. It’s so common for couples to rush things – double the time to double the fun.”
Forget the bed – “Foreplay starts way before you get anywhere near the bedroom. Women especially – men too, though – need an emotional connection beforehand to really enjoy sex and enjoy amazing orgasms. Have a date night penned in once a week, prioritise hugs, laughing, kissing, even holding hands. So much of sex is about anticipation, desire, small touches, not penetration.”
Hold your breath – “So often when I’ve seen people have sex, they hold their breath! Don’t! That holds all your sexual energy in one place. For full-body orgasms, take long and deep breaths, 4 counts in, 4 out, and really feel the arousal. This gets rid of any tension or tightness and allows your body to communicate with itself.”
“I cover topics like having a low libido, a fear of intimacy, getting over sexual trauma, fear of men, confidence while dating – and for those couples who are in a happy relationship, I teach them how to have the most incredible, genuine, loving sex.
“I mean, I’ve had 75 partners, I’ve been married to a massive international porn star, I’ve seen enough to know what works and what doesn’t.”
She and Rob both now live in Koh Samui, but live separately – Katy insisting they remain very good friends, despite no longer being compatible as a married couple.
“Rob’s very proud of me, and we had a great time together, but people evolve, you learn, adapt, change,” she said.
“Rob’s moved across into managing OnlyFans models, so he’s found a new path, too, we’ve both found a new passion, which is great.”
Internet cleansing
Katy had most of her porn videos scrubbed from the internet but says she has no regrets[/caption]
Is she worried about the 150-plus videos she and Rob made and put online?
“I paid a team to help me take as many of those videos down as possible, but there are still a few out there we can’t access,” she said.
“I now know one other focus for me is having a family, a long-term partner who’ll be a great dad to our kids, and I definitely don’t want that stuff out there when that happens!
“But I’m not ashamed of my life, we all learn and grow. I’ve had one brief partner since leaving the jungle, but I’m celibate again until I find a man who could be that dad.
“Mind you, I’m still open-minded, and I’m not shutting any doors. But everything happens for a reason, and this is where I am now, and it feels great.”
“Real, valuable sex education is so limited, and I pride myself on being a light for others. The internet can offer the worst possible guidance to young girls, and I want to correct that, helping young women – and their partners – have healthy, happy sexual experiences.”
“I’ve helped around 100 people now with my School of Sensuality, with around 300,000 social media followers, so the message is getting out there.”
“I want Bonnie, Lilly, anyone who’s had any negative sexual experiences, to know I’m here, I can help.”
Dark side of pornography
Like every industry, the pornography business has a darker side.
Suicides, drug overdoses and human trafficking form a seedy underbelly, which recently has made headlines in both Europe and the United States.
In January last year, porn star Thania Fields was found dead after sharing that she had experienced “sexual abuse” at the start of her career in porn.
She said at the time: “I have suffered sexual harassment and abuse after starting to create adult content. It’s very strong.
“Many thought that by hiring me they could do what they wanted with me, but then I came home, took a bath and cried.”
Recently deaths in the US include star Angelina Please, Dahila Sky and Olivia Lua.
Former director Tommie McDonald tells us he left the business after being confronted with some horrifying situations.
He says at least two models he knows off killed themselves while he was still producing, and many more simply seemed to disappear.
He said: “Over the years working in the industry, suicides were sadly fairly common.
“Often Eastern European women are brought into the industry at the hands of traffickers and forced into filming porn under threats of violence.
“It’s hard to work in this industry and not have your morals shift because so much goes on.
“I’ve also heard of rape allegations against top producers and suggestions that people have been drugged on set before filming.
“It was also commonplace for a bit in Europe that talent would forge clear tests so they could still work even if they had contacted something.
“There was a HIV outbreak in Europe about five years ago, which thankfully changed the way testing was done.”
